<<If a person’s behavior doesn’t make sense to you, it is because you are missing a part of their context. It’s that simple.>>
Juste ça. Personne ne prend de mauvaises décisions "pour le plaisir". Les gens prennent de mauvaises décisions en fonction de leur bagage de vie. Bagage qu'on ne connait, le plus souvent, pas.
<<When a person fails to begin a project that they care about, it’s typically due to either a) anxiety about their attempts not being “good enough” or b) confusion about what the first steps of the task are. Not laziness. In fact, procrastination is more likely when the task is meaningful and the individual cares about doing it well.
When you’re paralyzed with fear of failure, or you don’t even know how to begin a massive, complicated undertaking, it’s damn hard to get shit done. It has nothing to do with desire, motivation, or moral upstandingness. Procastinators can will themselves to work for hours; they can sit in front of a blank word document, doing nothing else, and torture themselves; they can pile on the guilt again and again — none of it makes initiating the task any easier. In fact, their desire to get the damn thing done may worsen their stress and make starting the task harder.>>